Thursday, February 5, 2015

Feminism's Finest //: Emma Watson


Emma Watson is woman that every girl should look up to. 
Not only is she beautiful, but she is brilliant and full of insight.

        In July of 2014, Emma was appointed as a United Nations Goodwill Ambassador. She was 24 at the time. TWENTY-FOUR. That's less than a year older than I am. It is so incredibly inspiring to see someone my own age making such changes in the way society thinks about feminism. Here you will read the transcript the speech she gave on September 20, 2014.  I have highlighted some of my favorite quotes!

        
        "Today we are launching a campaign called for HeForShe. I am reaching out to you because we need your help. We want to end gender inequality, and to do this, we need everyone involved. This is the first campaign of its kind at the UN. We want to try to mobilize as many men and boys as possible to be advocates for change. And, we don’t just want to talk about it. We want to try and make sure that it’s tangible.
I was appointed as Goodwill Ambassador for UN Women six months ago. And, the more I spoke about feminism, the more I realized that fighting for women’s rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating. If there is one thing I know for certain, it is that this has to stop.
 For the record, feminism by definition is the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of political, economic and social equality of the sexes.
I started questioning gender-based assumptions a long time ago. When I was 8, I was confused for being called bossy because I wanted to direct the plays that we would put on for our parents, but the boys were not. When at 14, I started to be sexualized by certain elements of the media. When at 15, my girlfriends started dropping out of sports teams because they didn’t want to appear muscly. When at 18, my male friends were unable to express their feelings
I decided that I was a feminist, and this seemed uncomplicated to me. But my recent research has shown me that feminism has become an unpopular word. Women are choosing not to identify as feminists. Apparently, I’m among the ranks of women whose expressions are seen as too strong, too aggressive, isolating, and anti-men. Unattractive, even.
Why has the word become such an uncomfortable one? I am from Britain, and I think it is right I am paid the same as my male counterparts. I think it is right that I should be able to make decisions about my own body. I think it is right that women be involved on my behalf in the policies and decisions that will affect my life. I think it is right that socially, I am afforded the same respect as men.
But sadly, I can say that there is no one country in the world where all women can expect to see these rights. No country in the world can yet say that they achieved gender equality. These rights, I consider to be human rights, but I am one of the lucky ones.
My life is a sheer privilege because my parents didn’t love me less because I was born a daughter. My school did not limit me because I was a girl. My mentors didn't assume that I would go less far because I might give birth to a child one day. These influences were the gender equality ambassadors that made me who I am today. They may not know it, but they are the inadvertent feminists that are changing the world today. We need more of those.
And if you still hate the word, it is not the word that is important. It’s the idea and the ambition behind it, because not all women have received the same rights I have. In fact, statistically, very few have.
In 1997, Hillary Clinton made a famous speech in Beijing about women’s rights. Sadly, many of the things that she wanted to change are still true today. But what stood out for me the most was that less than thirty percent of the audience were male. How can we effect change in the world when only half of it is invited or feel welcome to participate in the conversation?
Men, I would like to take this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equality is your issue, too. Because to date, I’ve seen my father’s role as a parent being valued less by society, despite my need of his presence as a child, as much as my mother’s. I’ve seen young men suffering from mental illness, unable to ask for help for fear it would make them less of a man. In fact, in the UK, suicide is the biggest killer of men between 20 to 49, eclipsing road accidents, cancer and coronary heart disease. I’ve seen men made fragile and insecure by a distorted sense of what constitutes male success. Men don’t have the benefits of equality, either.
We don’t often talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes, but I can see that they are, and that when they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence. If men don’t have to be aggressive in order to be accepted, women won’t feel compelled to be submissive. If men don’t have to control, women won’t have to be controlled.
Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It is time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum, instead of two sets of opposing ideals. If we stop defining each other by what we are not, and start defining ourselves by who we are, we can all be freer, and this is what HeForShe is about. It’s about freedom.
I want men to take up this mantle so that their daughters, sisters, and mothers can be free from prejudice, but also so that their sons have permission to be vulnerable and human too, reclaim those parts of themselves they abandoned, and in doing so, be a more true and complete version of themselves.
You might be thinking, “Who is this Harry Potter girl, and what is she doing speaking at the UN?” And, it’s a really good question. I’ve been asking myself the same thing.
All I know is that I care about this problem, and I want to make it better. And, having seen what I’ve seen, and given the chance, I feel it is my responsibility to say something.
Statesman Edmund Burke said, “All that is needed for the forces of evil to triumph is for good men and women to do nothing.”
In my nervousness for this speech and in my moments of doubt, I told myself firmly, “If not me, who? If not now, when?” If you have similar doubts when opportunities are presented to you, I hope those words will be helpful. Because the reality is that if we do nothing, it will take seventy-five years, or for me to be nearly 100, before women can expect to be paid the same as men for the same work. 15.5 million girls will be married in the next 16 years as children. And at current rates, it won't be until 2086 before all rural African girls can have a secondary education.
If you believe in equality, you might be one of those inadvertent feminists that I spoke of earlier, and for this, I applaud you. We are struggling for a uniting word, but the good news is, we have a uniting movement. It is called HeForShe. I invite you to step forward, to be seen and to ask yourself, “If not me, who? If not now, when?”
Thank you very, very much."







3 comments:

  1. I love this movement. I don't know when feminism became such a dirty word, but it's so apparent that we are considered the weaker in everything. Unfortunately for men, they're not allowed to show weakness, which is also terrible. I grew up with the impression that men took care of everything financially and outside of the home, while the woman took care of everything inside of the home and submitted to her husband in his wants and needs. That led to a pretty warped childhood and I grew up realizing I want to be successful, I want to be prepared if the rug is swept out from underneath me and I lose my husband and have children to care for. Luckily, my husband is the epitome of everything the men I grew knowing were not. We support each other and are partners, one is not higher than the other, we both get our way and both make compromise. We will both be successful and support our family, both will be present in raising our children, and both do what it takes when times get hard. I hope neither of us have to carry the weight of something important on our shoulders alone, I want the workload to be even. I know some cower at the thought of progression in this world, but it not only makes life more enjoyable, but it gives us a chance to raise a better generation. If my hypothetical son is half the man that my husband is, I will be content. Because of the example he sets, I have to set the example of being a strong, determined woman that respects her husband and has just as much fire in her belly.

    sorry, rant, but I love this topic.

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    1. (Totally clicked a link on the tool bar and erased my entire first draft of this comment. Yay. -_- )

      When Emma was appointed as UN Ambassador, I was thrilled. A twenty-something woman. I was thinking "We FINALLY have some representation!". Then I heard her speak. Wow. What an eye opening speech. Never in my life had I been so proud of being a woman!

      I can relate in every way! My father was a carpenter, mechanic, and all around handy man when I was a child. My mother was convinced my my Dad and his family that she did not need to finish school she was a sophomore in college), that he would treat her like a princess and give her what ever she wanted. In that time, women were still expected to marry, get pregnant, and fill the housewife/homemaker role. She consented. My mother who had paid for her own car, all her insurance, funded a trip across Europe with her college choir & symphony, and had dreams and ambitions gave up everything to live up to her "role as a woman". Two marriages later and those dreams are nowhere to be found. Being a relatively active feminist, it is hard to see my mother, who has SO much talent, be a slave to an idea that she accepted years ago.

      It had a huge effect on my older brother and fathers only son. He was small and small framed, but tried to live up to his fathers manly example.

      I agree completely. I love Zach with everything in me, but if tragedy were to happen, I would be able to continue on at the same pace, taking care of myself and our children. We live our lives together! We support each others dreams and goals in life. We push each other to be better. Also, I cannot express how amazing it is to be married to a man who is not embarrassed that he is in touch with his more artistic side! Poetry, an interest in fashion and home decor, painting, and music is what attracted me most to him! He's a feminist and I am so grateful!

      I know that we will be raising a future generation of more openminded, gender equal, self respecting and motivated children who are unashamed of their interests and passions! Glad to know there are others, such as you, who care as deeply!!

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  2. I literally had goosebumps the whole way through her speech. I've grown up in a house full of men, and the one thing that makes me so proud of my brothers is that they sometimes catch themselves before they treat a female poorly (silly teenage things, like blow them off on a date) because they think of how I'd feel if another man did that to me. They don't like seeing me hurt, so they relate the girl to me in that way and sort of humanize her in that aspect. I love that she's calling out to other men to do the same thing. I also really love that she's including them in the campaign in another way. In the fact that this is also a fight to allow them to be softer, to express emotions, and to change the idea of what a man really is. That's just wonderful, and definitely not a side you ever really hear about. Ugh, she's just amazing. Really, truly amazing.

    xo marlen
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